In toxic, dysfunctional ecosystems, abusers are seen as the victims by those who are supposed to protect and advocate for those who have been harmed.
The lack of protection and advocacy, and the default mode of victim-blaming, brings more chaos, confusion, distress, and trauma to an already traumatic situation.
This photo doesn’t even begin to describe what happened on May 24th, 2018 in a home group nearby. This photo does not do what happened justice.
He is much older than the man in this picture.
He dominated over his victim, pressing his face and his body very near to hers in an intimidating posture, blocking her from being able to be seen by the rest of the group with his back turned against them–masking and hiding what he was doing.
He came at his victim, intentionally.
When she stood up to his manipulation and manic posturing, calling out as best she could so that others might see what he was doing, he mocked her in sadistic tones, believing within himself that he dominated her and had the upper hand in that moment.
It mirrored a scene out of The Hunger Games.
Her attempt at self-protection was reported as being the one who was dishonoring, but not so.
Her attacker was very angry.
His victim had no idea why he would target her like that.
The man was much older and is a retired doctor. His psychological manipulation was “off-the-charts”.
It was then, when his medical clinic was shut down perhaps due to mal-practice.
His psychological manipulation and manic posture is still “off the charts” today.
He hides in his back room–even during weekly prayer meetings–which have turned into another opportunity to control an entire group of people–WOMEN– from behind closed doors, undetected.
He was attacking in an eerie, low vocal tone on this evening, attempting to fully annihilate his latest victim.
She had come in with joy.
She had forgotten that, around a controller, one cannot have joy nor be happy unless the “controller” grants permission for people to be so.
“Who you are and what you are doesn’t belong here.” He spewed, with calculated, vicious mal-intention.
His words were filled with poison and he was not in control.
He was attempting to dominate and maim, causing an elder in the church to bolt out of the house, as far away as she could get from him and what he was doing.
It felt like a mauling of some kind from the victim’s perspective, because…it was.
His victim knew
she had to get out of there.
She could not get herself
and her child
out of the house
As she looked around, his eerie tone continued with chastisement and sadistic mockery.
“Are you searching for help?” He glared at his victim, mockingly; his eyes, piercing. He was even attempting to control her from across the room.
“Help” was spoken in the most sarcastic tone possible. The dishonor flowing through him towards his victim was frightening.
“Do you think someone is going to help you right now?” He continued with malintent towards his victim, attempting to further dominate and intimidate with vengeful, spiteful comments.
His comments and speech were…disparaging.
His victim is one of many—a line of women and possibly children—who have suffered from his oppression and oppressive spirit–from his vicious abuse cycle.
Lawsuits and charges have been filed with the proper authorities, but really, he needs help and deep healing.
Perhaps he has a deep pain in his heart.
He must not continue to be allowed to harm women, and possibly, children.
Again, in toxic, dysfunctional ecosystems, abusers are seen as “the victims” by people who should be protecting and advocating for those who have been harmed.
Instead, victim-blaming ensues.